Should I Enter a Sugar Relationship?

Thinking about becoming a Sugar Baby? There are as many forms of sugar relationships as there are babies and daddies. While your friends might be talking about it and there are new sites and apps promoting the lifestyle all the time, you might think…

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Am I cut out to be a sugar baby?

Before you dive in and create a profile or get dressed up to freestyle these are some questions to ask yourself…

Why am I interested in sugar dating?

If you are broke sugar dating might not be the best option at this time. Desperate times call for desperate measures and no one wants desperate. It is easy to get into awkward and even dangerous situations when you can’t pay the rent that was due 3 days ago. Your daddy filter might relax and scammers will have an easy target.

If you are tired of dating broke guys, well sugar dating may solve that, though higher expectations of vanilla guys could too.

Don’t fall for the show-off types even on sugar sites (no one is confirming their income) and while you’ll screen all daddies pay special attention to younger daddies (often they don’t earn what they claim, sometimes they don’t exactly get what the site is for, or they do and try to take advantage).

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Remember even if you don’t date guys who think fast food is a date anymore, you’ll probably have to trade off in other areas (think: older, maybe less attractive, less availability, complicated relationship statuses).

The marketing around sugaring makes it look so easy! Talk online to some old guy and he’ll send me money! Um, not quite. Sugaring is no get-rich-quick scheme, it’s a relationship which takes time, trust, and a lot of communication.

What are my sugar dating goals?

“I want to meet guys with experience, networks, and knowledge that I can’t get with guys my age.” This may be true if the daddy works in a similar field or has contacts who are powerful in your area of interest.

Without clearly defining what they can do to help you, their success probably doesn’t mean your success. If you choose to rely on him and forgo valuable professional experiences you’ll be out experience and networking opportunities you could get through a job or starting your own business.

Have a clear goal of how your daddy will mentor you if that is a goal.

Some babies go into sugaring because they have specific financial goals that could be propelled by sugar dating.

Your goal may be to invest in your financial stability by paying down debts or cushioning an investment account, or your career by starting a business, or your education by covering tuition costs. Write these down and remember the long term goal of why you got into this lifestyle. Share this goal with your daddy and POTs as they might take an interest in furthering your goals.

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Some babies decide that sugar dating is a way to get someone to cover their expenses so they don’t have to work, or stay home and be a housewife or take care of their kids. Having someone pay the bills can allow you to focus your energy on what most matters to you. Plan how you will support this lifestyle if you or your daddy decide to call it quits.

Some babies look for a daddy to fund experiences neither they nor a traditional partner could afford. If you just want fun and spending money or if you are sick of Netflix and chill dates or scrolling through “free date ideas” on Pinterest, sugar dating could be a way to bring a little fun to your life.

Some babies are gifted vacations, designer clothes, or the ever sought after car or condo with time. Ask and you may receive.

How comfortable am I in stating my needs?

If you are shy, have difficulty with boundaries, or are uncomfortable speaking about money, you may not have the personality or the self-confidence yet to make it in this lifestyle.

While you don’t have to be an extrovert you will need to be assertive in your decisions and able to take steps to both get what you want and avoid what you can not tolerate. If you wait for a daddy or POT to bring up your needs or if you expect them to read your mind, you’ll most likely be disappointed.

Daddies, and especially POTs, may push the boundaries of what is acceptable to you financially, time-wise, sexually, communication-wise ect. especially since money comes into play. You will be unhappy and maybe even in danger if you can not definitively state your needs and expectations.

You can work on your self and your communication skills if you feel you are not ready yet to stand by your limits.

How self-confident am I?

In a sugar relationship, there is an inequality of power. The older, wealthier, more experienced man usually dates a younger, poorer, less experienced woman. You need to know what you bring to the relationship and feel confident.

Whether you like it or not, the women in this scene are mostly valued for their youth and beauty.

But remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder and self-confidence can make anyone look more attractive. Be your best self and people will notice. It’s often not about the mark on your clothes or your make-up but the way you carry yourself, your interactions with others, and your confidence.

If you are not sure what you have to offer in a sugar relationship you should take a minute and write down your positive qualities. What about you makes you different or attractive to a partner?

Do I understand what differentiates a sugar baby?

Sugar babies are gifted in their relationships. They are not paid for their time, sex, or companionship. They are not selling their body.

Socially you will probably encounter push-back for your choice. You may be seen as a gold digger, escort, or slut. Would you be ok with others finding out about your lifestyle choice?

Am I comfortable dating in unconventional situations?

How comfortable would you be dating an older man? What age gap would you be ok with? What about men in open relationships or with a partner? How do you feel about going out with guys of different races, cultures, or backgrounds?

Would I feel ok if someone I knew saw me out with these guys? How would you deal with a date gone bad?

If you would only feel comfortable with someone similar to yourself it will be very difficult to find a partner.

If you keep an open mind, you might enjoy the diverse partners and situations you can experience sugaring.

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What is the most important thing you wish you knew before joining the sugar lifestyle?